1. Many Kenyan ladies will end up singles for life
because of media exposure- it is so disheartening how a lady will glue
her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to
focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel.
Tell me, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a
fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?
2. Many Kenyan ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just
because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men
playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to
modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s
aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our
previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now,
with this attitude, how do you expect a Kenyan man to desire to marry
when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper
for himself?
3. Modern fashion and craze for gadgets is a great barrier to most ladies finding love and marriage. How
do we explain a single lady whose only desire in life is to acquire the
latest clothe in town, the latest mobile phone and pad to the detriment
of her woman worth? How can a single lady maintain this lifestyle for
long without bowing low to immoral lifestyle? How do you expect a man
from a responsible family background, and who is in his right senses to
propose marriage to a lady whose utmost desire and concern in life is to
acquire costly electronic gadgets, clothes, jewelry, perfume, etc? Of
course, majority of men would like to date such a trendy lady for fun
and show-off, but wouldn’t want to propose marriage to such a lady even
if she is earning the money herself because her expensive lifestyle
already is a big turn off to most responsible serious-minded single men.
Only men that are out to catch fun will be closely attracted to her,
and her chances of getting a marriage proposal from them is as slim as a
camel passing through the eye of a needle.
4. Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded men off-
if you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike excessive
makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often times
discourage their true loved ones to do away with it cos it speaks ill of
a lady even though so many men will applaud and complement you for
looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you are
out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural, it will attract
better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still living in
your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.
5. Cut Down Your Participation in social network sites- if
possible, close your facebook and twitter accounts because they may be
doing you more harm than good, but you wouldn’t know until you hit 35yrs
plus and still single and searching. If you cannot maintain a sizeable
number of vital friends and family members as friends on your facebook,
twitter, etc accounts, then you need to close the account and focus
with your offline life. No man would want to marry a lady who jumps from
one social network site to another because it is a clear sign of an
unfaithful lady or about to be unfaithful lady, yes, that’s how men view
it. Who are you to have a thousand friends on facebook, same on
twitter, maybe on wassap, 2go, twoo, BBM, badoo, eskimi, etc? 6. Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Dick & Harry! No
man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always
talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl,
but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest
chance or disagreement.
7. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men You Date or Are Dating-
because your best friend married without contributing anything to the
man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that
way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value
and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth
committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or
material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him
attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual
support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and
problems to be solved.
8. Your Friends Run Your Life- how
do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of
friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and
which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that those your
best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you to marry
before them or to marry the best man?
9. You Move Around In Group-
often times, you miss the advance of a good decent man when you move in
group, be wise. Again, men don’t always fancy ladies that move around
in group because most ladies can only be reasonable when you separate
them from their group of friends.
10. You Give Everything Out During Dating- As
a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve
some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and
preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get
certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being
single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant sex and
companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man
gets even the best and of course more of constant sex, good food and
excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me
how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him
virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend?
And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are
prepared to cut down on sex supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he
marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for
life?
For instance, everywhere you go today, you hear majority of single
ladies crying that they won’t be a cook for their husbands, that their
husband must know how to cook and must be participating equally in
cooking and home-keeping, that they cannot marry a man who cannot cook
or keep the home clean and all of that, but these single ladies are
doing these things happily for their boyfriends and perceived fiancés
without complain, but they keep complaining that they won’t do it when
they finally marry, and the single men are hearing all these.
Now, a particular single man has three to four girlfriends who
comes and cook, clean the house for him happily, and they also supply
him with constant sex even when he doesn’t ask, and he is aware that
once he marries any of them, she would stop or reduce the rate at which
she cooks for him and would want him to be participating in the cooking,
say; 60-40% of the time, and he knows too that if he marries any of
them, she would start to deny him sex whenever she deems fit in the name
of ‘I’m not in the mood’ or ‘I’m exhausted at work or business’ etc,
but she was never tired to do any of the aforementioned things while
dating the man, so tell me sincerely, how do we expect single men of
today to still desire to marry like their fathers and forefathers
desired to marry, with all these shabby scenarios surrounding our today
ladies?
11. You Package Yourself Wrongly- in
your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you
have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish
than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than
adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most
times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be
attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative,
only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their
immediate sex urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds
of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn't like to
be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look
sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.
12. You Lack Manner, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing- definitely,
your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many
men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character
and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men
would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order
words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in
negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do
better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies
today, please do away with it.
13. You Are A Liability- in as
much as we know that the present economy of Kenya and the world in
general is harsh, men and society in general careless about how you
react to this situation, how do I mean? Read on.
You are from a poor family background, and you have no job or you
are earning below $1000 a month but you want to wear designer clothes,
shoes, jewelry, perfume and also carry Prada and Gucci hand bags. You
want to use the most expensive gadgets- mobile phones, pads, etc. you
are from a poor family background, or average family, etc is not a
justifiable reason for you to be depending on men for virtually
everything you need in life. Show yourself some respect. And don’t think
you can split your exorbitant expenses amongst different men, by dating
different men so that you won’t be demanding from that one you truly
love amongst them, so that he will be convinced that you are a good girl
who doesn’t demand, fallacy! A man knows when his woman is sleeping
around with other men to meet her needs, most men only decide to keep
mute for reasons, don’t get it twisted, but hardly will they marry you-
that’s why you see a lot of pretty ladies complain; “after giving him my
love, my body, my heart, and did everything for him, etc, he paid me
back with heartbreak, God will punish him, blah, blah, blah” says who?
Of course you don’t expect a man in his rightful senses to marry an
unrepentant whore, do you? Would you welcome your own brother bringing
home a playgirl as his would-be wife, be honest please?
There are zillions of decent and honorable things you can do as a
single lady to at least meet your own financial needs without sleeping
around with men or depending on one man to supply all your needs.
Finally, cut your skirt according to your length. You are from a poor
family, your parents earn below $3000 a month, but you want to look like
Rihanna, wear the same clothe she wears, you want to live a similar
life Beyonce, Genevieve and Tiwa Savage lives, and you want to dine in
the costliest hotels and restaurants, and you are jobless or earning
below $2000 a month. Now tell me sincerely, how is it possible to
achieve this foolish goal without patronizing immoral lifestyle to meet
the insatiable demands?
14. Your Role Models Are Totally Strange And Bad! If
you want to be a great woman tomorrow, start now to emulate great
women- study their foot parts, their lifestyle, their ways and try to
inculcate their lifestyle into yours. Stop looking up to music stars and
fake celebrity ladies, etc as your only role model in life. What
happened to looking up to women like- Ngozi Okonjoiweala, Oby
Ezekwesili, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Sen. Dabiri, Sang Suu Kyi, Hilary
Clinton, Michele Obama, etc? Stop glueing your eyes on fashion TV,
Fashion One, Big Brother TV Show, E! etc, and start now to build
interest in economy issues, current affairs, economy and business news,
watch more of CNN, National Geographic channel, Channels TV, ESPN,
Discovery World, Animal Planet, Aljazeera TV, Super Sports, etc, these
are what men love to see women do cos only a handful of women show
interest in these, and those few women are those ones that end up being
great women in future. Movie Magic, Africa Magic will only inculcate bad
habit, poor manner and laziness in you, please wake up before you end
up single for life, which I pray not.
“Love is always bestowed as a gift -freely, willingly, and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved, we love to love.” -Leo Buscagalia
